Jealousy—it’s a strange yet completely human emotion, isn’t it? I refuse to believe anyone who says they’ve never felt jealous in their entire life. That’s a straight-up lie! We’ve all had moments when we felt that pang of envy, whether over someone’s success, looks, or lifestyle.

I didn’t think much about jealousy when I was a teenager, but now, in my 20s (where I’d rather sip tea at home than spend weekends shopping—anyone else relate?), I reflect on things deeply. I want to understand why we feel this way and, more importantly, how we can grow from it.

Why Do We Feel Jealous?

Studies suggest that:

• Women often feel jealous of other women’s appearance, wealth, and lifestyle.
• Men typically envy financial success, strong romantic relationships, and fitness levels.

At its core, jealousy stems from wanting what someone else has. But here’s the big question: Are we willing to put in the work to get it?

Jealousy vs. Inspiration

Let’s say you see someone on Instagram with your “dream body.” Instead of double-tapping, you scroll past because, let’s be honest,..you’re jealous. But what if, instead of feeling envious, you used them as inspiration?

• Instead of resentment, try admiration.
• Instead of ignoring them, engage! Comment, uplift them, and maybe even ask for tips.
• Instead of wishing, start doing. Their fitness didn’t magically happen. They put in work, so can you!

The truth is, every successful person has a process behind their achievements. You may not see the gym sessions, the meal prep, the rejections, or the sleepless nights, but they’re there. No one wakes up one day with a six-pack or a thriving career.

How to Overcome Jealousy in 5 Simple Steps

1- Acknowledge It: The first step is admitting you feel jealous. No shame in that, just don’t let it consume you.

2- Reframe It as Motivation: Instead of, “Ugh, why them?” try, “If they can do it, so can I!”

3- Compliment Instead of Compete: Next time you feel jealousy creeping in, go out of your way to compliment that person. You’d be surprised how freeing it feels.

4- Limit Comparison Triggers: If social media fuels your jealousy, take breaks. Unfollow accounts that make you feel bad, and follow people who uplift you instead.

5- Work on Your Goals: Focus on becoming your best version, not a copy of someone else. Make a plan and start working towards what you admire in others.

Bonus: A Life-Changing Book Recommendation

One book that completely shifted my mindset on jealousy (and life in general) is 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think by Brianna Wiest. I’ve read it twice, and now it permanently lives on my toilet shelf (TMI? Maybe. But hey, wisdom hits differently when you’re in deep thought, literally).

👉 Grab the book [https://amzn.to/4hwRBQ1] and let me know your thoughts!

Let’s Chat!

When was the last time you felt jealous, and why? Was it over something superficial, or did it reveal something deeper? Let’s talk in the comments, or DM me on Instagram!

Loads of luv,
Hannah 💛