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Why Do Doctors in Japan Hate Questions? (Asking for a Friend… Literally)

I think I have a bit of a problem. You see, I tend to overprepare before visiting the doctor. I go full Sherlock Holmes researching every possible scenario, potential cure, dietary recommendation, and prevention method. Why? Because the last thing I want is to sound clueless during a consultation.

Now here’s where things get a little tricky: I live in Japan. And let me tell you something doctors here really don’t like being questioned. I’m not exaggerating when I say many people in Japan treat doctors as if they’re divine beings handing down wisdom from Mount Olympus. Whatever the doctor says is the law. No questions, no comments, no follow-ups. Just bow and leave.

Well, unfortunately for them, I’m built a little differently.

Despite having Japanese blood in my veins, I’m a natural-born questioner. I question everything especially doctors. When I permanently moved to Japan, my dad used to accompany me to hospitals for my psoriasis and eczema flare-ups. Back then, my Japanese wasn’t great, so I would prepare a list of questions and hand it to my dad, who would then become my unofficial medical translator.

Fast forward a few years and my Japanese improved. I could finally grill the doctors myself. But each time I dared to ask questions polite, logical questions, I was often met with awkward silence or rushed out the door. Maybe they were afraid I’d say something they couldn’t answer, or maybe they just didn’t want to break the illusion of being all-knowing. Who knows? Either way, I always left the clinic slightly confused and a little insulted.

Fast forward again to last week—my eczema flared up badly. Dad offered to take me to the hospital (old habits die hard), Off we went. This time, the dermatologist spoke both English and Japanese, which should’ve made things easier. well: it didn’t.

Dad and I, like a medical investigative duo, bombarded the poor dermatologist with question after question:

  • “Why do I get flare-ups even though my diet hasn’t changed?”
  • “Is it food-related?”
  • “Should I stop eating certain things?”
  • “Should I be eating more of something?”
  • “Why does it happen inconsistently?”

And then we hit him with 20 more just like those (all valid questions, mind you) You could almost see the steam rising from his ears. He ended up prescribing a new ointment and told us to come back late translation: “please leave before I lose my medical licence from second-hand embarrassment.”

But honestly, all we did was ask questions. Isn’t that… I don’t know… the literal point of going to a doctor?

So here’s my burning question of the day (pun intended, because eczema):
Why do doctors here seem to despise being questioned? Isn’t answering your patient’s concerns quite literally your job description?

Anyway, until the next awkwardly tense appointment, I’ll be here, drafting my next 40-question list and preparing to offend another medical deity with my curiosity.

loads of Luv
Hannah

13 responses to “Why Do Doctors in Japan Hate Questions? (Asking for a Friend… Literally)”

  1. まじか

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    1. はい、まじです😬

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  2. I suspect that you are “on the mark” most of the time. Questions for doctors should be a no-brainer, but MANY people fail to ask questions and suffer as a result. Doctors need questions in order to learn, just as the patient needs to learn new information. Frankly, I am VERY unhappy with “modern healthcare”…I find it medieval. (But then I find many things medieval, including politics and banking.) I am currently trying to adjust to having a Doctor put the wrong lens in one of my eyes…I now have a host of issues which are affecting my painting. Everyone can make a mistake. But if Doctors want to be revered as Saints, maybe they need to actually be perfect….unlikely, maybe they should just be human and exercise two-way communication to help their patients and themselves…. keep asking questions!

    BTW, my partner grows all the ingredients in her magic salve. I am enclosing a stick with your art cards. I think it might help you – and if it does, I can send more.

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    1. Thank you so much for your thoughtful and beautifully honest comment.
      I’m really sorry to hear about what happened with your eye. That’s not just a medical mistake; that’s a deeply personal disruption to your life, your art, your expression.
      You’re right, healthcare in its current state can feel painfully medieval, especially when it shuts out the voices and questions of the people it’s supposed to care for.

      And your partner’s salve, how incredibly kind and generous. That means a lot to me. I truly can’t wait to try it. The idea that it’s made with care, by hand, from the earth… there’s something healing about that in itself. Thank you, deeply 💚💚

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      1. I need your help with filling out a form. It calls for “Street Address”, “City”, “State”, “Zip Code” which I believe to be:

        Address=
        16-14 Sagamihara 6-Chōme

        City=
        Sagamihara,

        State=
        Kanagawa

        Postal Code=
        252-0231

        Please correct me, if I have this wrong…it is just my guess – and sorry I have to use this form for shipping.

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      2. Haha, thank Phill,
        It goes like this.. (you got it almost right)
        Address: Sagamihara Shi Chuo Ku Sagamihara 6-17-4
        State: Kanagawa
        City : Sagamihara
        Postal Code: 252-0231

        Ps: now everyone knows my address and I don’t know if it’s a good thing 😂😂

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  3. In all honesty I have experience this a few times with a physician before to treat an ongoing muscle pain, mind that he was American, which may be relevant for the culture change and behavioral change, but it essentially went terribly. Nowadays, I avoid the doctor unless I go for an annual checkup and teeth cleaning, and just make sure I floss, eat healthy, and stay somewhat fit. Doing things according to someone else’s half baked plan when I can make my own fully baked plan is not my cup of tea, so I am with you Love. I enjoyed your comedy of a doctors appointment story by the way. It is a question that I think will never be directly answered.

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    1. The world may never know 😂

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  4. I litteraly (not sure if you can do it figuratively) made a post once who the doctor told me to “Google it”.
    Alright then, hon.

    And there are still people who praise Denmark for having “free” health care.
    Imagine if you’d have to actually pay for that advice.

    Yes, I’m bitter 🤭

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    1. Truth is bitter most of the times luv

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  5. You haven’t lived until your doctor has denied being your doctor, then ordered expensive tests you don’t need for your med, and then treat you like a dementia patient for taking notes on how long to fast beforehand, and where to take the tests.

    I live in America, in which loyalty to “class” (meaning not gentlemanly behavior but money or lack thereof ~ trust me, I’ve seen wealthy ladies act just like fishwives ~ and, ever since reality TV, so has everybody else) trumps loyalty to any other career, conviction or calling whatsoever, and I’m poor ~ but I read equally scary stories written by the wealthy.

    I know you’re right that these professionals are afraid they can’t answer. Since beginning to research for myself I’ve found professionals of all sorts to be at least half bullshit most of the time ~ at least, the ones they let me around. But then, remember, my only value is my money, and I don’t have any of that…

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    1. God help us all then, we are doomed

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      1. Do-o-O-O-O-o-o-med… 😱

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